Anna Backens - Reconciliation?

What is real reconciliation? The technical term of the process is "the process of making consistent or compatible". I was recently in a discussion where there was question about what it means to reconcile with another. Someone brought up the topic that reconciling being able to understand another's perspective and then working with that. Then another person in the conversation said that reconciliation is forgiving someone. To me, it seemed like these two perspectives seem to be extremes of the process in a way. Just accepting another is not really reconciling with them after a disagreement or wrongdoing has occurred, it is avoidance or lack of confrontation. On the other hand, forgiveness seems to infer a self-denial of one's self. I think that reconciliation contains both actions but might not be entirely one or the other. The definition of reconciliation has been left so wide and vague, it is difficult to understand fully how then to be reconciled to one another. It can be both an agreement by the physical, symbolic showing of "shaking hands" to show that there are "no hard feelings" persons, but it also seems like a spiritual-like agreement of the hearts takes place as well for reconciliation to be complete. Avoidance and compromise, only justify inaction and do not seem to account for reconciliation.